DIRECT ASSAULTS ON MANHOOD

Direct Assaults on Manhood

Things to consider

          Some things should either never be said or said very carefully when it comes to men and women. Both men and women are guilty of speaking without considering which area of their mate’s life could be affected. Men are often much too callous when discussing their opinions on their woman’s weight, hair, and other things that the woman seems to think about constantly and daily. It would be safe to say the area is sensitive if there are constant thoughts about it. Women also speak much too quickly with no regard to the fragility of a man’s ego. Like a woman, it often happens in areas that are dwelled upon constantly. Some of the areas following are areas that men may be insecure in.

1.      All Penis jokes referring to size. (If he does not believe you like it, he might as well go).

2.      Sexual performance. (Improvement may be needed, but nobody should be crushed)

3.      Protection (If a man does not feel he can protect you physically, spiritually and emotionally, he feels like a worthless punk. Some even begin to behave such).

4.      Happiness (He knows that he is partially responsible for your happiness. Even statements such as “we are a boring couple”, can give a feeling of worthlessness and failure of responsibility.)

5.      Are you crying?

6.      Do you need me to call my dad to help you fix that?

7.      If you can’t do it, I’ll have someone else do it.

8.      Never mind, you don’t care anyway. (As if he is incapable of caring correctly).

9.      I used to love your hair/legs/style of dress/poems you did/romanticism. (As if it does not exist anymore or he is directly responsible for the loss of it all).

10.  Never mind. (Now he is not even worth your time).

I believe that criticism is a necessary part of growth. However, if more than one person in your past mentions that you can be harsh; I think it may be possible that you cannot fully project the feelings of another person. Sometimes, we are fortunate enough to be placed with a person that helps us in the area where we are weakest. If you are the insensitive person that just says what you feel without regard to how it may be received by the other gender/person, it may behoove you to be attached to a person who will give you plenty of practice thinking through another’s feelings. If you are the person who has a quick fuse that is lit with the fuel of sensitivity, you may be better suited for a person who is going to say things to cross into your areas of sensitivity. Perhaps, you will not be desensitized, but balanced. This holds true for both types of people.

     Ultimately, we are all put on the Earth to master relationships. We must all be well versed in the areas of love, love walks, respect, discipline, discernment, faith, hope, and understanding.